Motivating yourself to be ready to engage in ambitious behavior and stay focused can sometimes be a difficult task. Because it also means being smart enough to know what hinders your motivation once it stops and how to regain it back. Being in such a state of mind is a challenge! Fortunately, you have all the tools at your disposal to start avoiding the things that reduce your motivation right away!
Being too afraid to make mistakes
We often do things that we have never done before to find the best way to achieve something. Errors allow you to gain maturity and competence. You can eliminate them from the list of possibilities and refine doing so your field of action from there. From a technical point of view, mistakes are a good thing. The fear of failure keeps many people from staying motivated and daring new things.
Whether it’s raising your hand in class or trying out this new sports equipment that you do not know how to use, human nature is so made that we still prefer not to think outside the box. But to get more effective results, you should really try things you do not like if you really want to get good grades, slim down or start this business. At the same time, do not be fooled by your mistakes. It’s too easy to make a mistake, to have the impression that we are so far from the goal that it is no longer worth trying and stopping. But if you say it’s not a solution, it will not happen. It is not to fail that matters, it is to be able to get back in the saddle.
Stopping to learn
You may get bored along the way, become tense or miss attention which will lead to a reduction in your motivation. To avoid these pitfalls, keep learning! Spice up the menu! It’s hard to stay motivated in the long run in any situation. But it will be easier if the goal continues to evolve and if your knowledge expands.
If you have decided to lose weight, read success stories and blogs. Talk to your trainers in the gym. Ask a nutritionist. Find new items (training methods, diets, etc.), one after the other. Your mind stays alert if you vary the program.
Comparing yourself to other people
Compare yourself only to yourself. The worst way to be unmotivated quickly is to compare yourself to others. You will never be what they are and they will never be like you, so what’s the point? Although you’ve heard it a million times before, it’s worth repeating: the only person you can compare to is the one you were before. Only your progress counts, not what others do. That’s why it’s so important to note your progress. You need to know where you came from to find out where you came from. If you have made progress, you have nothing to blame yourself, regardless of what the competition can do.
Living in constant fear of failure
Know that you can live through failures. It is important to adopt a behavior (if possible a habit to keep all your life) knowing that there will be failures all along the way. If you are too much of a perfectionist, you will be frustrated and tempted to give up. There will be times when you will fail. You just need to know that you can get up or better yet, that you are going to get up again. Your failures have nothing to do with you, but with being human, so fallible. It happens. It’s sometimes your fault (all decisions are not bright), but sometimes it’s also the imponderables that you cannot control. Getting your head up is going to be a definite plus in the long run.
Not focusing on your goals
Instead of forgetting about your goals which will lead to the loss of motivation you should only focus on positive goals. It is really very easy to know what we do not want. It is very easy to know what scares us. It is often more difficult to pinpoint what could make us happy and what we are fighting against. However, if we want to accomplish our tasks, we should start by thinking of positive goals and not negative ones. Instead of saying, “I do not want to become poor,” you’d better think, “I’d like to save so much money every month. Is not this prospect much more feasible? And less scary!
Optimism does not consist here of smiling blissfully at this sunny day. It’s about something you can do, something affirmative. The goal of not “becoming obese” is in itself quite de-motivating. Losing ten pounds with diet and physical activity is something that will not make you wince just thinking about it.
Working constantly without a break
You need to take breaks. We are not machines (but even machines need to pause). Studies have shown that students taking breaks are more effective in their studies. And it goes without saying that our muscles need rest too. Breaks are not made for lazy people, they are for those who know they need to talk to keep going.
It’s up to you when you need to take a break. It also depends on the end goal. You should not only take short breaks during the day but also take a break in your life.
The things that stop or reduce your motivation can sometimes be too obvious that you do not even notice. Try to focus on the positive things in your life and never forget to set milestones and goals you need to reach because those are the reason why you wake up every morning.
Most importantly, do not be too hard on yourself if you do lose motivation from time to time and remember that, as much as we want to be, we are not machines. Humans can make mistakes, get unmotivated and tired sometimes. That’s why you need to know when to take a break when you most need it.